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Read responses from our expert psychologist, to some of the most commonly faced issues
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- My best friend's boyfriend is pressuring her to send him nudie photos of herself. She tries to laugh it off but I know she is really uncomfortable. What can I do?
Yes - sometimes it's easier for us to laugh off situations that are uncomfortable, than to actually look at what's making us uncomfortable!? This can be a recipe for disaster. While you can see your friend under pressure to perhaps cross her own line, she may be experiencing a confusing mix of feelings. Before checking out all the mega-consequences of submitting to her boyfriends' pressure, she may need time to reflect on how she feels about actually being asked by him to take such a step! Your friend may really benefit from a gentle, supportive invitation from you to explore what she's uncomfortable about. However, when you raise it with her, try not to use language that sounds like you're judging or blaming her. Rather, maybe try something like this formula: I see that you kind of laugh when this comes up, I imagine it would sometimes be confusing to know what to do in this kind of situation, I feel concerned for you and I would like to be here as your best friend to listen while you try to work out where you're at.
If your friend starts exploring this dilemma with you, you may find that the more confidential listening time you give her to reflect on what's going on, the more emotions may initially come up: this is an issue that can go to her values and how she sees herself. Eventually, she may look at a number of different responses to her boyfriends' request. She may become clearer on where and how she draws the line with him.
You can then help her go through the bunch of possible consequences of agreeing to take and transmit pics: scariest among these being the potential for total loss of privacy through the transmission of the pics through computer and phone networks across the neighbourhood and the world.
Legal lines: Also your friend may not be aware that possessing naked images of someone under the age of eighteen on their mobile phone or computer may potentially constitute a "child pornography" offence (or similar) for the purposes of the Criminal Code Act 1995 (Cth), the Crimes Act 1900 (ACT), and various State and Territory child pornography laws. So depending on the age of your friend and his girlfriend, your friend could be at risk of being charged and prosecuted for such conduct - something they probably aren't thinking about in the heat of the moment.