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Read responses from our expert psychologist, to some of the most commonly faced issues
The questions and answers below on this page help provide advice to others who may be in a similar situation. Please note the advice provided on this page is of a general nature and not specific to any individual or personal circumstance.
Please do not send questions raising urgent issues. If you need help, see our contact details for free counselling services.
The circumstances described in some of the questions below may raise legal issues. We suggest that contact be made with the Police or with a lawyer to find out what assistance or options may be available in these circumstances.
- I have a friend who has an ex who won’t leave her alone and it’s getting worse; he is hurting her physically. I want to stop this from happening but can’t. What do I do?
Your friends’ ex has gone well beyond pestering or stalking, and onto assault: in this case the line’s been shattered. It’s likely that words alone won’t work with this guy, and – as he is now engaging in violent criminal conduct – this could now be a matter for the police. There are a number of avenues your friend can pursue, and this may include activation of Apprehended Violence Orders (or AVO’s). These orders can declare that the ex cannot contact your friend, and also that he may not come within a certain distance of her. This is a matter that the Police and the Courts can assist with. It’s also essential for friends and family to support your friend in this situation. She is already in harms’ way and the more people that are around to support her, the better.
Sometimes people in her circumstances may downplay what is happening – saying it’s not such a big deal and that they can handle it. This could be because they still remember times when their guy seemed caring and gentle with them. However, it is really important they recognise that some people in close relationships start believing they ‘own’ the other person in some way, and cannot handle it when they find they can no longer ‘control’ that other person. Then you see a side to some seemingly ‘nice-guys’ that can be shocking and extremely dangerous. If your friend feels unsafe, she should call the police, and stick close to supportive family and friends.
More information is available from the sources below.
The following numbers are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for advice and information:
NSW: 1800 656 46
VIC: 1800 015 188 / 9373 0123
QLD: 1800 811 811
WA: 1800 007 339 / 9223 118
SA: 1800 800 098
TAS: 1800 608 122 / 6233 2529
ACT: (02) 6280 0900
NT: 1800 019 116
National Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Confidential Helpline: 1800 737 732;
Telephone advice and support can also be accessed from the following services or their websites:
ACT: Women's Information and Referral Centre
NSW: Violence Prevention Coordination Unit
NT: Domestic and Personal Violence Protection Unit counselling services
QLD: Domestic Violence Services - Regional Services
SA: Women’s Information Service
VIC: Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria (DVRCV)
TAS: Women Tasmania
WA: Department of Communities