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- There was a misunderstanding between me and one of my best guy friends, who is an Indigenous Australian. He always jokes about himself, and he made it clear I could joke about him too without him being offended. He said something and I heard him wrong, and he heard me say something back, which was wrong too, and he thought I was intentionally being racist against him, when I wasn't. Now him and a group of people, my "best friends" have all ganged up on me and have tried/are trying to turn everyone against me. He won't listen to me either. What should I do?
Casually poking fun at others, and trying not to ‘lose it’ if others poke fun at us, almost seems like part of our culture. It’s as if we think that making jokes about our differences can make us feel like we are closer friends somehow. However, this can be a tricky business: we can and often do go too far with our jokes, and people can get upset (even if they hide it well). Like most people, those that belong to different ethnic or religious groups can be willing and able to laugh at themselves, or pretend that it’s OK if others’ laugh at them in order to fit in. Yet we shouldn’t be too surprised if someone gets upset in this process: we all have things we are sensitive about.
It sounds like you and your friend have had a genuine misunderstanding, and that you never wanted to upset him. It also sounds like you may be feeling hurt yourself that he, and some of your “best friends”, are willing to think the worse of you. All you can really do at a time like this is to apologise for your part in the misunderstanding, and let your indigenous and other friends know that you meant no harm. Importantly, you will also know in your heart that you had no nasty intent.
You might not be able to get through to your friend for a while though, so it could be a frustrating time ahead for you. Talk to someone you can trust - and who values you - about the situation. Try to nurture yourself and remind yourself that you are a good person who meant no harm. How you behave - what you do and say from here on in - can send messages to others about the kind of person you really are.