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Share The Line
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Handling conflict
14/11/2011
You’re out with your mates and strolling around the mall when someone bumps into you and tries to start a fight.
What do you think is the best way to deal with conflict?
Have you ever been in a fight and regretted a badly handled situation?
What do you think is the best way to deal with conflict?
Have you ever been in a fight and regretted a badly handled situation?
Comments
26 comments so far
I'm not religious but my boyfriend is. Recently he has been adamant that I not eat pork and shellfish as it it apparently 'highly offensive' for him, he also has said that if I liked him enough, then it wouldn't be a big issue for me to not eat these foods. But I am more worried about the principle of what he is asking... Is this warranted for him to demand that I act in the way that is acceptable for his religion even thought I don't want to? This really concerns me as I think he might break up with me over it. I know this is perhaps not a very serious issue compared to some things on here..but it's really upsetting me. Please give me some advice on what's right and what's not.
Posted By: - May 16, 2012, 9.02PM
Hi Tayla
Sounds like a tough situation. If you can, give us a call and we can help talk you through some things you can do, okay?
The number is 1800 MYLINE (1800 695 463).
Just remember you're not alone. Stay safe!
Sounds like a tough situation. If you can, give us a call and we can help talk you through some things you can do, okay?
The number is 1800 MYLINE (1800 695 463).
Just remember you're not alone. Stay safe!
Posted By: The Line - May 9, 2012, 6.41PM
I am 14 years old and my mum recently stopped working. She has an alcohol problem and she drinks 2 bottles of wine a night. I can't handle it anymore. My hole family hates that she is smoking and drinking every night. Any help?
Posted By: Tayla - May 9, 2012, 5.57PM
I was dating a friend of a friend for a year. Everything seemed fine. I never cheated and was always a good gf. Then out of the blue he dumped me by text. Said that I have no self esteem and no confidence, which isn't true at all. To rub salt into the wound he said that he should've dumped me a long time ago. I was devasted, as you would be. Then he turned everyone against me. Like everyone completely cut me off. I couldn't believe it. Just so everyone would still think he is a great guy.
I asked for closure but all I got was verbal abuse by text. What an utter joke.
Why is it ok for these people to cross the line, but not us? I never deserved this at all.
I asked for closure but all I got was verbal abuse by text. What an utter joke.
Why is it ok for these people to cross the line, but not us? I never deserved this at all.
Posted By: Sarah Anne - Mar 11, 2012, 9.40PM
Hi DannyH - It would be best if you contact the school principal. If you would like to speak with a trained counsellor about this matter please call 1800 MYLINE (1800 695 463). The service is available 24 hours.
Posted By: TheLine - Mar 4, 2012, 2.22PM
i have a question
if a child in yr7 attacks another child in yr7 with a weapon without provication.
what can be done.
the argument between these kids has been ongoing for 7yrs they have been in the same school and we have been dealing with it through the school.
now the attack that happend the otherday was un provoked the kids were saying in class that they would be fighting the other kid in the afternoon aparently the teacher herd this as well but did nothing.
the school has supended the 2 kids but i feel the one who tried to use a weapon should be expelled.
any thoughts or links to law about this would be great.
THE LINE WAS CROSSED!!!!!!
if a child in yr7 attacks another child in yr7 with a weapon without provication.
what can be done.
the argument between these kids has been ongoing for 7yrs they have been in the same school and we have been dealing with it through the school.
now the attack that happend the otherday was un provoked the kids were saying in class that they would be fighting the other kid in the afternoon aparently the teacher herd this as well but did nothing.
the school has supended the 2 kids but i feel the one who tried to use a weapon should be expelled.
any thoughts or links to law about this would be great.
THE LINE WAS CROSSED!!!!!!
Posted By: Danny H - Mar 4, 2012, 9.36AM
Hi Jaid… if you're feeling unwell, it's important you see a doctor. If you want to talk to someone, please give us a call on 1800 MYLINE (1800 695 463). We can help you work out what steps to take and what you can do next.
You're not alone.
Please, stay safe.
You're not alone.
Please, stay safe.
Posted By: The Line - Feb 21, 2012, 4.24PM
Hi i'm hearin' imparied.. i have problems at school because people at my age doesnt like me cause of it. I've been skipping meals, headaches etc.. I don't know what to do :\ & there are other stuff happened...
Posted By: Jaid - Feb 21, 2012, 12.50PM
I am in yr 9 and i have a guy friend in yr 12. we have always been close and we are always cuddling and have ours arms around each other,A girl in the year above saw me and him at shcool together and she spread a rumour that we were sleeping together now all my friend and even the teacher heard it. No one is supporting or beleiving me and its really upsetting to know that even the people i trusted will believe anything they hear and turn there backs on me. I overheard my best friend saying to another girl that i was a complete sl*t. I havent slept with anyone. What shall i do?
Posted By: I cant say - Feb 19, 2012, 1.09PM
hi iven been with my partner for nearly 7 years we have 2 beautiful kids together, we broke up in november for 3 months and he made me leave and he kept the kids with him wouldnt let me see the kids.. i went through his phone and he was tunning this girl i no and she was sleeping in our bed and being around my kids all the time.. we both tried having other relationships but we couldnt.. i love him to death but iside im hurting really bad.. any suggestions on what i should do??
this chick keeps messaging him on facebook..
this chick keeps messaging him on facebook..
Posted By: tenielle - Feb 18, 2012, 2.08PM
Im 14 and i have an amzing boyfriend,we are in a pretty serious relationship, he doesnt hit me or anything but the problem with us is we live very far apart, im worried about loosing him and i feel as if im not good enough, even know he always says i am :( i just want more confidence !! :(
Posted By: Youngstar12 - Feb 14, 2012, 12.28PM
hi I have a friend that was going out with a dude for nearly 6 mouths he broke up with her he cheated on her for his ex a weeks before for 6 mouths he was being mean any everything and in the last 2 mouths they have been tuning and everything and he has been saying that he misses her and then last Friday he asked her back out and now they are going back out he is back to his old self and now she doesn't want to go out with him any more but he hurt her so much before and she wants to hurt him as much as he did to her should she do that or just break up with him
Posted By: - Feb 13, 2012, 11.23PM
Hi stillkruzin. Please give our helpline a call - they'll be able to offer you some more advice about your specific situation. They're open 24/7 and its a free service. 1800 695 463. Thank you.
Posted By: The Line - Feb 11, 2012, 5.27PM
hi guys , im nearly at the end of my rope with my 15 year old daughter. She has got herself mixed up with a 21 yr old pot smoking , not working mentally and emotionally abusive guy. Shes moved out of home and is now demanding that i sign her over so she can get centrelink payments, her father and i dnt want to do it because it will only support his habit and make her even more isolated. Any advise ?
Posted By: stillkruzin - Feb 9, 2012, 2.55PM
I am sorry to have to tell you that the violence will NOT stop. It will NOT get better, just like that. It is a vicious circle. Call women's help line and follow the advice for your safety and that of your unborn baby. All the best!! Lyn
Posted By: Hi Layla - Jan 16, 2012, 7.09AM
Hi my name is Meghan and im 13, and i have this friend he is 2 years older than me, always askig to see my boobs on cam, and threw text message.
I dont know how to say no to him, because m scared he will never talk to me again an he will go around saying stuff about me, what do i do?
I dont know how to say no to him, because m scared he will never talk to me again an he will go around saying stuff about me, what do i do?
Posted By: Meghan King - Jan 14, 2012, 11.37PM
at the end of the day, there are certain things that you should ask the advice of family members, weather its you parents, or sibling, because there are so many people out there on the internet who will lead you down the wrong path, that its incredible, they seem to get off on it, so in my opinion seek your answers from those around you who know you the best and do love you and care for the outcome in your life without wanting to either get their kicks out of it or to just simply hurt you by steering you in the wrong direction
Posted By: angel - Jan 11, 2012, 7.26PM
Hi layla
That's a tough situation to be in. Your safety should be your primary concern. We urge you to call 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732). It's free and anonymous and you can talk to someone about what's happened and what you can do about your relationship moving forward. Please stay safe.
That's a tough situation to be in. Your safety should be your primary concern. We urge you to call 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732). It's free and anonymous and you can talk to someone about what's happened and what you can do about your relationship moving forward. Please stay safe.
Posted By: The Line - Dec 19, 2011, 1.17PM
I am 12wks pregnant to my boyfriend and just the other day he hit me and got really viollent with me and kicked me out. He says that he's sorry now and that he doesnt want it to happen again. This is the second time he's lost controll and I really want to make it work with him but how do I know that its going to stop and how can I make this work so we can have a strong relationship
Posted By: layla - Dec 19, 2011, 9.50AM
Hi Hayls,
We urge you to call our help line on 1800 MYLINE (1800 695 463). Its open 24/7 and is free. They will be able to provide you with advice specific to your situation. Sounds like you are in a tough position and we hope you are able to improve the situation for you and your family.
We urge you to call our help line on 1800 MYLINE (1800 695 463). Its open 24/7 and is free. They will be able to provide you with advice specific to your situation. Sounds like you are in a tough position and we hope you are able to improve the situation for you and your family.
Posted By: The Line - Dec 17, 2011, 8.43AM
i have been in a very controlling marriage for 13 years and my husband has just thrown out of the house the last of my 5 children who is only 16 years old and i do not have a legs to stand on hat can i do to save the rest of my family am feeling very unstable mentally please please i need advise to cope
Posted By: hayls - Dec 15, 2011, 8.24PM
Hi,
To the poster below:
We're really sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time at home. No one deserves to be the subject of verbal or physical abuse. Please contact 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) to speak confidentially with a trained counsellor. If you are concerned for your safety or that of someone else, please contact the Police on 000.
To the poster below:
We're really sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time at home. No one deserves to be the subject of verbal or physical abuse. Please contact 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) to speak confidentially with a trained counsellor. If you are concerned for your safety or that of someone else, please contact the Police on 000.
Posted By: The Line - Nov 29, 2011, 10.38AM
What if it is your MOTHER controlling her family. She does not let us have friends, money, abusive language and throws stuff at dad, me 17 and sister 18. She even took my sister to court because my sister did not do what MOTHER wanted her to - the judge told my sister to respect her mother and fined her $150 and 12 months good behaviour bond. HOW can we STOP MOTHER from bulling and controlling dad and us when even the COURTS do NOT HELP. Mother is on a mental disability pension, because she was on ICE and did not rehab when we were in primary school and she never is to blame for anything !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted By: - Nov 28, 2011, 9.41PM
Hi Alex, I've just read your comment and I just want to say that doesn't sound very good at all.. Have you disscussed this with your parents or gaurdian? I think it would be a good thing to talk to them about the problem and maybe you could transfer over to a different school and start fresh. No one should have to go through bullying; even worse, not be able to go to school for that long. If you can't talk to your parents/gaurdian, try to talk to someone you can trust. I find that if you have a pet or a teddy bear that you could practise talking to, that helps me a lot. Please try and get back to school, it's very important.
Posted By: trying to help - Nov 22, 2011, 10.40AM
hi my name is alex quigley im a teen as they say sweet 16 its not so sweet i have not gone to school i have been to school for 1yr.5months cos off the bullying im a diffent life i have done alot off stuff that i should off not done
Posted By: alex quigley - Nov 20, 2011, 5.12AM
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